bebereader
djafan
voiceadmin
The Dilemma of Acceptance
Posted by thefunnygirl on Monday, July 19, 2010
I have no adjectives left. No more cute and silly things to say about this ride. No more excuses, no handy or clever comebacks. I just pray that I am not talking in my sleep. I have completed the first 4 stages of grief.
Denial. I am not obsessive-compulsive about this TV show contestant.
Anger. This is not OK! It is not fair that he makes me cry!
Bargaining. I will set limits. I will only tell certain people. He fills my soul so it is OK.
Depression. I have failed at setting limits. I have let my freak out with no curfew. YouTube is not exercise. My family and friends think I am nuts. I am having ‘impure’ thoughts. People think I am a cougar. Why don’t people understand how much deeper this is? This is terrible. Only my on-line friends understand.
Acceptance??? I thought I was there. Then the photo shoot tweetpics, then the Rexburg vest, I mean, concert. The confidence on the new songs, the epic Be Still My Soul which is the total opposite of the vest. HE IS TWO PEOPLE, so maybe I can be two fans? David’s book includes his thoughts about fans. He gets us. He really does. He knows that age is irrelevant. He knows that his gift is spiritual, emotional. He loves us too. I’m not sure he knows how distracting his good looks are. It is irrelevant to his journey and should be to mine. I know this in my head. My eyes disagree wholeheartedly. Here is where I am stuck. I can’t give myself full acceptance of this journey, of my love, of my passion for all he represents to me, of my commitment to his success, of my fanship, of MYSELF because he is so terribly and painfully and wickedly handsome to me and that makes me feel guilty. Because society, religion and my age tell me that I should. His looks shouldn’t matter, and I’d still love him and support him and cry at his voice if he were an ugly troll, but he isn’t, and I can’t seem to stop noticing that, and it just keeps getting worse as he matures and his confidence grows. It is a part of the experience of watching him sing now. The beauty just magnifies the whole experience. Sometimes I don’t care, I’m entitled to my own private thoughts, and I’m not hurting anyone! (see anger and bargaining) and other times I know that the focus should remain on the voice, the spirit, the emotion.
Some people are able to put things into nice categories. The voice and talent and spirit and emotion and the beauty are pieces of the puzzle of this angel we call David. How we each rank and place value on these parts is based upon our past, our values, our religions, our world-view, our stereotypes, judgments, and emotions. What we each receive from and on this journey is unique and personal. We have opened ourselves up to each other and to family and friends because we want to share this, we want to understand it, and we want to explain it. We want acceptance. Some of us have given up on ever getting it from our families and friends and coworkers. Some of us never cared what anyone thought.
I no longer care what anyone thinks. In fact, I like to wear my I Heart DA VIP shirt around town, just to shake people up a bit. Let them think what they want, I can’t change their minds, and I don’t want to. I have learned that people are VERY ageist and judgmental. But God knows my heart and my intentions and knows that his looks will always take a far second place to what his voice does to me.
What about your self-acceptance? Do you have yours? How did you get there?
The Voice David Archuleta 
annmargaret said
funnygirl ~ hi! I don’t think I’ve ever responded to one of your posts but girl, you and I have so much in common.
Yes, yes, yes & yes to everything you said!
This beautiful non-troll man/boy has me in his clutches and I hope he never let’s go! He seems to get more breath taking with every passing day. Yes, the fam thinks I’m nuts too. But funnygirl with all of my online friends I’m able to indulge my obsession and appear relatively normal. Love your posts! Please keep writing. You’re one of the best!
LikeLike
Archuleta Avenue Msia said
I get what you mean. I’m a guy old enough to be David’s father and in many ways am very proud- like a father would be – of how far he has come since American Idol.
I often get ribbed for the difference in our ages and the fact that I’m a male being such a huge fan of a young man. The jokes and raised eyebrows when I tell people that I listen to his music is enough to make one choke!
But I’ve learned to turn the other cheek and not let such narrow mindedness spoil it for me because in my heart I know it’s only that amazing voice that I’m interested in and that’s good enough for me – never mind what the others think.
I don’t question it anymore.
LikeLike
tracewillow said
FG!!
Your article has provided me with my “entertainment of the week”! Not only because it is so funny but also, I believe you have spoken, loud and clear, for all of us. I bet to my most bottom dollar, that everyone of us here has gone through that dilemma. Except that, as far as I know, we have not talked about it on such a grand scale as you have now. Haha
There is no denying that David, bless his soul, is so devillishly, ridiculously, devastatingly, deliriously and deliciously handsome!! We would have to be to be blind and stupid not to see it and also to be affected by it. Hey, we may be a teenie-weenie bit older but we’re not DEAD – (except sigh…..when he cruelly makes us THUD!)
It does not have to be just the Voice alone – his looks and everything else are all gifted to us in this gilded package – the Heavenly Mail just got delayed by a few unimportant years.
I see myself as a sensitive, feeling, woman – a woman of passion, a woman who can be excited and stimulated by beautiful things and people (that is why I’m HERE, people!!) and David is the most beautiful human being who walks this planet! So who can blame me or FG or anyone here?
I want to live my life doing deliberately the things I enjoy doing……. loving deliberately who I want to love. And the rest of the world will have to give me Acceptance as I give them mine……..no apologies entertained.
#2 Archuleta Avenue Msia
A big Hi to you!! I must be just a few streets from you haha!
LikeLike
Abrra said
Archuleta Avenue Msia
Thank you for posting at TheVoice. It’s so great to have another male perspective to the conversation about David and his journey. I know there are many who follow his career, but do not post on fan sites.
FG
“HE IS TWO PEOPLE, so maybe I can be two fans? David’s book includes his thoughts about fans. He gets us. He really does. He knows that age is irrelevant.”
This might be the essence of the conflict we feel. David can be silly and serious, pure of heart and oh so manly as he sings.How he is handling his fame at such a tender age is amazing to me. We KNOW he respects the relationship he has to each fan regardless of age. We feel it when we meet him and look into his eyes.
Abrra
LikeLike
FG said
Hello to all and thanks for your comments! Abrra your slideshow made me LOL!
About BEBE’s quote on the right side bar – we should tell them that frowning causes wrinkles!
LikeLike
Jane said
The Funnygirl…..Very well said and how true it is and I agree with every thing that you wrote….it is so nice to meet others that feel the same way as I do…I have meet others at Davids concert and we have e-mailed back forth, they are some of the best friends in the world, because sometimes families just don’t understand what we feel when David is on stage, singing…I so glad that David knows that age is irrelevant…His voice is from heaven… and I am a golden fan….probably one of his oldest fans….
Abrra….I like what you said and “He respects the relationship he has to each fan regardless of age”. Thank you
LikeLike
FG said
Rexburg glowy-pear-like face
LikeLike
emifriend said
FunnyGirl:
I stumbled by this quotation today from CS LEWIS–regarding beauty:
“We do not want merely to see beauty, though, God knows, even that is bounty
enough. We want something else which can hardly be put into words-to be united with
the beauty we see, to pass into it, to receive it into ourselves, to bathe in it…”
I am not really sure what the context for this statement is, but it reminded me of your article because it captures some of the same truth– you are funnier though! I am not saying I am totally at peace with all the issues you raised either. It was just nice to see, and I think we could say that CS LEWIS “gets it…”
LikeLike
I said
FG: 100% YES.
LikeLike
Fiona said
FG #7, that video is a perfect example of David’s stunning beauty. I have never before thought of a man as being beautiful (rather than just good looking) but I think it’s the combination of his stunning looks and his wonderful personality that makes him different. I don’t have a single friend or family member who understands why I love David so much so I love to read articles like yours that make me feel not so alone about this obsession!! Also, my fascination with David has improved my life so much! The fact that this 19 year old has taught me so much is amazing and I am convinced that he is a gift to us from God. Any time I feel upset or stressed all I have to do is listen to “the voice” and all is well with my world again! 🙂
LikeLike
Fiona said
Abrra, loved the slide show!
LikeLike
emmegirl said
FG, you are one of the best! I love how the joy he makes you feel just jumps out in your writing. The way he enriches my life I think will always be one of my life’s little mysteries.
Nope, try as you may, there is no separating the physical from the metaphysical… it is what it is! And it is all goood!! Sorry David!
And yep, no more second guessing, no more admonishing myself, no more attempts at justifying. As David said, it’s just me and him…. and all of you guys!
LikeLike
Marylee said
“I can’t give myself full acceptance of this journey, of my love, of my passion for all he represents to me, of my commitment to his success, of my fanship, of MYSELF because he is so terribly and painfully and wickedly handsome to me and that makes me feel guilty. Because society, religion and my age tell me that I should. His looks shouldn’t matter, and I’d still love him and support him and cry at his voice if he were an ugly troll, but he isn’t, and I can’t seem to stop noticing that, and it just keeps getting worse as he matures and his confidence grows. It is a part of the experience of watching him sing now. The beauty just magnifies the whole experience”.
FunnyGirl: I had just put on my make-up & then read your thoughts on David & the “dilemma” we all deal with every day..and the tears showed up again..no surprise! Beautifully written & I thank you for helping me to sort through the mixed feelings his voice & persona bring out in me.
LikeLike
SandyBeaches said
FunnyGirl…We have had dilemmas about David since day 1, but have enjoyed them no matter what they are!! Thanks for the most enjoyable read this morning…
SB
LikeLike
angelofdja said
Yes! Yes! and Yes!
FG, I just read your article to my mom, hoping to let her in on a little of WHY I am so “gobsmacked” by this young man. Let’s just say…she still thinks I’m a little over-board on my fanaticism(sp?) There is no way to explain it, and I have given up trying to. It is my “thing” as my hubby calls it and I am very, very comfortable with it.
I too wear my David Archuleta t-shirts around anywhere and everywhere I so desire. I figure I’ve earned my right to be who, and what I am at this age. To the rest of the world that doesn’t get me…OH WELL! They are soooo missing out on the fun! 😀
LikeLike
Bright Light said
FG, great article! I also recall your other article about David’s glow. Both were poignant and humorous.
I believe, in his way, David is a healer. His music is somehow a type of ‘medicine’. Remember the song from “Mary Poppins” with the lyrics, “Just a spoonful of sugar helps the medicine go down!” Well, I think David’s beauty is that ‘spoonful of sugar’ that entices people of all ages to re-open their hearts.
LikeLike
bebereader said
FG You deserve a round of applause! You speak for so many fans here and it helps to see our feelings in writing.
This crush clearly ain’t going away! I accept it. I’m ecstatic in my fandom; it’s others who think it’s weird. You see it’s incorrect on so many levels to love a nineteen year old singer, even if his voice transports you to another hemisphere and makes you whole again, even if you’ve learned so much from him, even if he’s helped you overcome personal obstacles and on top of all that, has the most beautiful voice in creation.
To those who think it’s wrong; pardon me but, that’s their problem. I’m old enough to know what’s good for me.
Here’s the rest of my quote from up top:
“It’s plain to see that women in our age group are frowned upon for loving a nineteen year-old singer. They are quick to assume that it’s all about his looks when in fact the way he looks is only part of his appeal. There’s no question that David has blossomed since American Idol and has become a very handsome young man who just happens to be 19. But his age doesn’t matter; he could just as well be 29, 39, 49, 59, 69, 79, 89, etc.
The fact remains is that the strong magnetic pull between David and his fans will always exist because it is about the whole David Archuleta phenomena and not about only one of his attributes including…his beautiful voice, his kind spirit, his old soul, his vulnerability, fearlessness, courage, intellect, sense of humor, loyalty, physical appeal and so much more.”
LikeLike
Anonymous said
Funnygirl…AMEN SISTA!! You hit the nail on the head for all of us! I’ve always loved your comments…from the very beginning…you have a knack for putting into words what I’m feeling. Thank you once again!
LikeLike
bebereader said
Starting tomorrow, July 20, (or at midnight tonight) we can pre-order “Other Side of Down”, including an instant download of “SBL” on David’s official site. http://www.davidarchuleta.com/
There will be a Trending party on Twitter tonight, starting at midnight.
Details:
When: July 20th, starting at midnite tonight, July 19
What to trend: #somethingboutlove
Please include @davidarchie in your tweet and be sure to include the hashtag (#) before the songtitle.
LikeLike
davidstopsmyaging said
Funnygirl, what you wrote hit it on the head for me so perfectly that I just had to comment to say, “RIGHT ON”!! This is the first time I have commented anywhere, ever, though I spend too much time looking through cyber land for any hint of David stuff. He is like a drug for me—embarrassing—since I am old enough to be his mom and then some—-but I feel exactly the same as you and all these wonderful commentators. My family doesn’t get it, either, and have chosen to tolerate my “habit”. It took me awhile, but I have stopped feeling so terribly guilty—the 19 year old just gives me something I can’t find anywhere else—and I still can’t find the words for it. He fills up something deep inside of me in a very satisfying way. Love his voice, his personality, his youth, his character, his wisdom, his ability to stand up for his beliefs, AND he is insanely handsome to boot— couldn’t ask for more. (Gosh, I hope I don’t talk in my sleep, either)!!
Thanks for letting me ramble—-Love this sight, by the way!
LikeLike
blisskasden said
FG, can we talk? I fully understand your angst over this matter. The issue is real, and, if you’ve taken a peek at David lately (and I’m sure you have), the situation is getting worse, not better. Over the years there have been many “spiritual” and “profound” singer/songwriters. A few names that come to mind are Leonard Cohen, Bob Dylan, Carole King, John Lennon, Phoebe Snow, Janice Ian….. They wrote memorable, great songs that have become classics. The difference is that their genius was not housed in a 19 year old male body and face that looks like it was painted by Botticelli in the 15th century. With all due respect, few fans had a crush on Phoebe Snow or Leonard Cohen. They loved their mind and their work.
David Archuleta is a completely different story. He is profound, he is deep, he is super talented. At 17, he was adorable, vulnerable, and cuter than the law allows. Now, at 19 1/2, he is all of the above, plus he is , in the current vernacular, hot, dope, and, frankly, a stud muffin.
This would not be much of a problem if David’s fans were exclusively teenaged girls maintaining the tradition of going “ape” over the current teen idol flavor of the month. The fact is that David has an avid and, in some cases, rabid fan base of women (and some men) old enough to be his grandparents. That would not be a problem in and of itself, except that these “mature” folks have husbands, and children OLDER than David who they have to convince that their admiration for David is strictly due to his fantastic singing talent. It’s like trying to convince someone that you loved Marilyn Monroe only becase of her acting talent. It’s a tough sell.
I have a whole article in my head about what it’s like to be a male fan of David’s, but this is FGs thread so I’ll save it. Being a fan of David has been a very liberating experience for many, many people, including me. Let’s keep our eyes and ears on the prize, no matter how good it looks in a T-shirt and jeans.
LikeLike
bebereader said
Davidstopsmyaging, Welcome to The Voice!
Bliss: You’ve been missed! 😉
LikeLike
River said
From the start of my DJA journey, David’s been like a drug. A really good drug. Understand that I was a happy woman to start with so it wasn’t like I was out there searching to something to obsess or cheer up over. What got me going was that every time I heard his voice or watched him perform, I felt happy, felt joy, felt pride, felt moved. The train started rolling and the pattern of keeping it to myself got tougher. Meeting him several times made it worse. Then he grew up and got devastating. Geez. It’s tough to hide the zillion photos on my screensaver, the giant posters in the house, the CD’s everywhere, the keychains & shirts, and the temptation to bring up the minutia in his life in any conversation I’m having at the moment. But I’ll tell you this. He’s changed my life and I’m happier for it. Plus I get all of you guys in the bargain!
LikeLike
Pabuckie said
FG – Can I just say this article has been hiding in the closet too long? haha!
Just want to add that I agree with everyone here! I, too, have no one in my family who understands this “thing” I have with David Archuleta. Well, it doesn’t matter anymore to me. I’ve accepted my love for David, the person, the musician, the beautiful VOICE that heals me when I’m feeling down and can’t wait to run home & listen to him sing to make me feel that things are going to get better. Yes, that David!
You’re so right in that he is 2 David’s — and I love both of them.
He is just too handsome for his own good! lol
On the plus side for me, I don’t have a husband or children to explain my affection for David….so I am perhaps “free to be me” and love all of David. David…why DO you have to be so handsome though? haha
I first fell in love with his personality on IDOl, then his VOICE, now he adds, morals, character, (the most handome thing I’ve ever seen in a 19 year old — YES!), sense of humor, randomness. He just has too much going on!!
I’ve never felt this way about any other celebrity or been a FAN of anyone like this before. I love David, the person he has shared with all of us, and without him even knowing….look what he’s done to us? lol…so David I hope u can accept all of us “older” fans and besides you can’t help it that you look so good? Right?
Sorry this is so long but FG this is a truly wonderful article you wrote and I thank you for it.
LikeLike
Abrra said
#18 Anonymous
Great to see you posting here!
Abrra
LikeLike
Abrra said
#20 davidstopsmyaging
Now that you have posted, wasn’t that easy? Love hearing from new voices!
Abrra
LikeLike
Susie said
You obsessive fans and followers of The Voice. You are a HOOT! We all know what we do. None of us can truly explain why we are so totally sucked into the obis of David Archuleta.
I feel like I’m in the middle of the Richard Dreyfuss movie “Close Encounters of The Third Kind” – I’m building that mountain, but do not know why it has consumed my being; until we reach the point that we all gather together (The Voice Website) and experience the revelation together. The Voice, the child, the man, the spirit, the beauty, the feelings, the glorious being of David Archuleta.
It is a joy to know that I am not alone.
LikeLike
djafan said
FG…Thank you for your courage in writing this piece… and btw your writing skills are outstanding.
“We have opened ourselves up to each other and to family and friends because we want to share this, we want to understand it, and we want to explain it.”
I’ve caught myself to many times to count, gotten the “look” from my children when “David” appears in the conversation. I want to rave over anything new in David’s world but they don’t get it and I don’t understand why when it’s so obvious to me and look at all of your comments, to all of you to. David is the sum of all that makes a wonderful human being, how it was all placed in one beautiful package is beyond my comprehension, but I love him and all he is inside and out.
LikeLike
Susie said
Does anyone else just pull up that “Something ‘Bout Love” cover art – enlarge it to consume your entire computer screen and just stare at it?
LikeLike
betsy said
Nicely done, FG. 🙂
Sorry for the short comment, but I just deleted 2 paragraphs. I wrote about topic this like a maniac. But the pull to delete was so strong.
Cliff’s notes:
1)I liked your article.
2)I hide my feelings on this subject more than ever, unless it’s to a close friend.
3)I wish I didn’t.
4)My stepdaughters all think there is something very strange about me. (going to Ohio for the CFTH concert)
5)I wish I cared less about what people think of me.
LikeLike
River said
Susie #29 MEEEEE!
LikeLike
Abrra said
Susie
My monitor wallpaper and my iphone wallpaper, LOL
Here you go have a peek 🙂 It has David’s fav background “orangeness”
Also, I have said many times “I need to make the mountain with mashed potatoes” when I try to explain the David “attraction”.
River
I can relate!
“It’s tough to hide the zillion photos on my screensaver, the giant posters in the house, the CD’s everywhere, the keychains & shirts, and the temptation to bring up the minutia in his life in any conversation”
I have a HUGE poster from the last tour directly opposite the door to my room. Anyone who enters can’t miss David!
Confession: I have a gallery of photographs (that Betsy sent me from Grand Rapids&Clarkston) on a glass shelf in my bathroom (TMI) 🙂 David is present in any space I occupy.
Bliss
You have email 🙂
To all who enjoyed the slide show, thanks for the kind words. Song choice was a no brainer, FG 🙂
Abrra
LikeLike
djafan said
Susie,
25″ inch screen at work…huge David eyes staring at me…lol
(((betsy)))
LikeLike
MunkFOD said
FG, I love your article. Yes, my family thinks I am nuts and sometimes I think I am too. I try to stay away…..I really do…I think, “I will just listen to his music and not get on line, or watch his videos, or read articles on fans sites, or twitter during Who’s On Top Challenges”….”I just won’t do it!” I tell myself. But then I think….”oh I will just look for a second. It won’t hurt”…and then I am sucked in all over again. My poor husband doesn’t know what to think. But I can’t help it. I am hopeless! ugh! So thanks FG! You put it all into words perfectly! I need a 12 step program or something!
LikeLike
blisskasden said
Bebe, I’m always here reading the articles and posts. Articles like this one get my juices flowing. I see David as a trailblazing socio-cultural phenomenon worthy of intelligent discussion and exploration. Part of that phenomenon is the effect he has on “older” people in unprecedented numbers and unprecedented intensity. Although we, as a society, revere physical beauty, we punish those who happen to “look good’ by not taking them seriously. Attractive people are trivialized and marginalized. Thank goodness Jonas Salk wasn’t a “looker”. Americans spend billions trying to be “gorgeous”, and when someone comes along who can achieve that just by rolling out of bed (David, i.e.), their other qualities are discounted and devalued.
People assume that if one loves an attractive person, it is primarily because of their “looks”. David happens to be extremely attractive. John Lennon said “A pretty face will last a year or two, but pretty soon they’ll see what you can do”. We’ve all seen what David can do. David has and will do plenty, and he’s not going to let being the best looking kid on the block get in his way.
LikeLike
Pabuckie said
Abrra – just watched your slideshow and love it! 🙂
Love the song too!
LikeLike
Angelica said
FG,
I want you to know how much I admire you for the courage and unflinching determination to write what has long needed to be said. I have seen all the drafts that have been returned for editing and some you have asked for the return of, just to produce an article that would be respectful of David. This process has gone on for weeks and yet you never gave up on conquering “the beast” as we came to call it. I think it is one of the best things you have ever written. You possess a passionate, witty vulnerability along with the stubborness it takes to be a writer and I am honored to have you with us.
In the past several weeks I have read so many accounts of mature fans being hurt by family and friends over their appreciation of David. It caused me to reexamine my own journey. I have spoken before of praying for happiness and not doubting that David was the answer I was given. He has been the inspiration for me to come out of my isolation and write, create, reach out to others online and in person. His voice, his music weaves daily the threads of my being into a tapestry of joy, faith, hope, and acceptance. Acceptance of all that I am and strive to become and yet…there are those who would have me believe that this new me is “unacceptable.” As reticent as I try to be about my fan activities (I have been carefully taught) I still have to endure the rolled eyes and the all-knowing exchange of glances. But none of these people who sneer ever gave me what he gives me every single day. So much joy that my heart can hardly contain it and not just for him, but for me. Why is it wrong in the eyes of many family, friends and some young people for an older man or woman to love David Archuleta? We don’t want to marry him, we just want to give him our love and support for as long as we live. Yes, we find him beautiful inside and out. We are not blind, nor are we dead, at least not yet. Is that some crime that we should be ashamed of? Yet many of us lead double lives, half of our existence spent in secrecy and silence. We hide our David memorabilia and the depth of our ODD and find refuge only with our online friends.
A short time ago I was feeling the horns of my own dilemma with all of this, and wondering where this long and winding road would take me. I thought, maybe I should turn on my heel and go back the way I had come and the very idea had me feeling like I had lost my best friend. In this frame of mind and feeling discouraged and heart-broken, I logged on after work and saw this…
and suddenly none of it, not a bit of it, mattered at all. I couldn’t remember my pain, all I knew was that this young genius with his intense stare was worth everything I endure to support him and his life’s work. I made a joke, posting a pic of a cougar and saying “I give up,” but what I really gave up in that blinding flash of epiphany was my pain and my doubts. I found my inner cougar and she is beautiful and strong and wise..and utterly harmless. From now on my response to those who sneer will once again be…”Bite me.” Because he gave me back my joy and hear me roar! NO ONE is ever going to steal my joy again.
FG, you said…
“Some people are able to put things into nice categories. The voice and talent and spirit and emotion and the beauty are pieces of the puzzle of this angel we call David.”
Like you, I can’t do that. How can you split up the pieces of the puzzle and decide, this one I’ll keep and this one I’ll ignore. In The Lacer of Souls I wrote, “He is the piece of the puzzle that fits so tightly there is no space he does not fill. He is David Archuleta and he is the Voice.”
LikeLike
hooked said
All I can say about this incredible honest article is “AMEN” I almost never post but I always read. This time I had to just say “AMEN”
LikeLike
Abrra said
#38 Hooked
Post more !
Abrra
LikeLike
ram said
FG- Yes, it is just like that and you explained it beautifully. I think you covered all of what this David journey has been like. Right now I am at the point of trying to keep a balance between my other life and the David experience. David has so many wonderful facets to him that it’s an almost impossible challenge. I try so hard and then BAM he gives me No Me Queda Mas, with mariachis hijole, and I am back at square one again. Oh well, David wins again!!! ha ha
See, as I am typing this I have it playing in the background on a loop. 🙂
LikeLike
dakgal said
FG– For you especially and for all that have shared their thoughts here today– a big ‘ol HIGH FIVE!!
LikeLike
River said
Abrra. Ha. Love the photos on the shelf. Me too. I do have one of David & me from a VIP (Westbury) that I dare to have in my office. When visitors who don’t know David (who in the world are these people?) ask, “is that your son?” there is no easy or short answer. But at least I can look at it every day.
LikeLike
djafan said
Abrra…lovely slideshow!
Picture from the Tejano awards.
LikeLike
I said
‘m Puma. I love you Angelica.
LikeLike
davidstopsmyaging said
Ha Ha—I feel so much better about posting now—thanks for the welcome, Abrra!
I have laughed a lot reading these comments today, because you all could be me.
My husband tells my kids, who are David’s age and older, that, “At this time in mom’s life, she just needs a little fantasy”. Well, I guess, indeed I do! I can not imagine a more beautiful human being on the entire planet, so David is officially my “fantasy”. Sorry, honey—don’t be jealous!
What’s really embarrassing, though, is when I am teaching my middle school students, and they start talking music–Justin, Taylor Swift, DAVID—-Oh My Gosh—I have to remember that I am the adult! What I really want to do is sit down with them and say, “I LOVE David, he is so HOT and I LOVE his music and if I had a binder he would be plastered all over the front, and……..yeah” Yikes—-I just have to bite my tongue, or risk being sent to the funny farm is disgrace! Last year I did venture the statement, “I love David, too. I wish I were a few years younger, and then he could be my boyfried”. The kids all laughed and said, “But Mrs. Woodward, you’re MARRIED!” I said, “So??”. For the rest of the year they would cut out pictures of David to give to me——hee hee.
Anyway—-what can I say!?!
LikeLike
Susie said
#41 – HIGH FIVE back to you!!!
One of my favorite images of David, I’d go find the picture or video, but I’m having too much fun with you right now that maybe I’ll try to find it later.
Obviously, it is of David. It is the American Idol tour. It is his last song “When You Say You Love Me”.
The view is taken from way up above – like the nose bleed section.
David is standing at the end of the stage that juts out into the audience. David is extending his hand (as he always does) to the throngs of people.
My immediate thought was that he truly is a missionary. He reaches out, so naturally, to hold your hand and pull you in; give you advice, encourage you, believe in you, and amazingly embrace you with soul, song & spirit.
AMEN
LikeLike
Pabuckie said
#46 Susie – My dream would be for David to sing WYSYLM again! Never saw it LIVE and you’re so right about how he reaches his hand out and draws you in.
LikeLike
Abrra said
Davidstopsmyaging
Great story! I have read a few “teacher” stories where they incorporate Davidness into a lesson in music or poetry (IE song) writing. Dare to be you 😉
Another Tejano Awards Red carpet pic of David and Lupe
Credit Jackson via Snarkies
Abrra
LikeLike
Abrra said
Don’t forget our international fan friends!
http://davidbeyondborders.com/dbb_blog/
Abrra
LikeLike
Pabuckie said
Djafan – yep, I saw that pic on twitter and tweeted it. So which one is Selena’s sister? I’m assuming the one to his right?
LikeLike
VLM said
FG,
THANK YOU!
You hit me right on the head with your article – I had to deal with DABDA (Denial, Anger, Bargaining etc) but for different reasons (Angelica knows my story) – Wow, finally someone was brave enough to write about this and I give you 1000 hugs and kisses from across the ocean. From now on, no more hiding – let my friends and family bring me to the mental hospital with the words DAVID FOREVER etched on my forehead.
God bless!
LikeLike
Abrra said
OHHH!!! Fun!
http://www.stardoll.com/en/dolls/1024/David_Archuleta.html?dsearch
Abrra the SPAMMER
LikeLike
bebereader said
From ggdoorsfan:
Trending ‘something ’bout love’ on twitter july 20th
hello team 🙂
i think the plan for david’s fans is to trend [1] #somethingboutlove, and to [2], put his whole name in every tweet, without the hashtag [ davidarchuleta ] on the 20th…. time is to be determined…. please everyone make note of this info, and commit to staying at the trending for as long as it takes on the 20th!! when it trends, the longer it stays on trending topics, the more visibility for the release…. 😀
let’s get behind this and do this for david – help make something bout love a heavily downloaded song the first day and all week long 🙂
LikeLike
emmegirl said
{{{Angelica 37}}}
It’s funny, I remember that “I give up” post because it made me laugh; but it struck me, and I remember thinking “does she mean ‘just now’?” And I contemplated it for a few seconds and then let it go, figuring I was over-analyzing, it’s just a humorous post.
Thank you so much for sharing that. I still occasionally waffle, but only for a few seconds, because in my heart I know I’m not going anywhere… I am where I need to be, where I deserve to be and where I belong.
LikeLike
Pattirae said
#37 Angelica This made me cry, “I found my inner cougar and she is beautiful and strong and wise…and utterly harmless. From now on my response to those who sneer will once again be…”Bite me.” Because he gave me back my joy and hear me roar! NO ONE is ever going to steal my joy again.” I am trying to figure out why this has left me so totally emotional. I think on one hand, it may be because of the gratitude I feel that my husband and “most” of my family understands what David is about and has appreciation and love for him, not to the extent that I do, but they accept me and my feelings. I also think a lot of my emotions come from this statement by Angelica that “no one can steal my joy…” I love and appreciate strong women who make sure they have a voice. Not only a voice but strength and confidence to go with it. Why should we care a twit what others think about our new found happiness and yes, obsession. I don’t like intimidation, put downs, and all that goes with it. I feel a certain sadness that other people are so judgmental about our adoration of someone as wonderful as David. I often ask myself, why??? I actually think it says a lot about that person. 1. why do they even care that you like David so much (no one is asking them to!!) 2. why do they feel the need to make you feel bad or stupid–eye rolls etc? These are just a couple of questions that I ask myself. I can’t help but think that jealousy may play a role (husbands?, boyfriends?, sons? etc.) I also think ignorance may play a role. So many people have never seen a thing about David since Idol and think he is still that same shy, inarticulate, but maybe talented kid. We know everything, and I mean everything about him since he hit the Idol stage and after. So, a lot of it may be that they just don’t know, or care to know for that matter. There could be so many different reasons for the rude reactions from people. I just keep wondering if it is unique to the person, David Archuleta. Would you get a different reaction if it wasn’t David? Would the reaction be the same if it was another young singer? Am I making any sense at all? I guess in the end what I really want to say is that all of us here have the privilege of “knowing” David. It is our right, it is our honor, and “no one can steal that joy from us!!!”
LikeLike
River said
on a lighter note, Abrra 52 that is just hilarious. Sooo fun, especially since we can recognize some or most of these items. And then of course remember where he wore them. Ok.. I’ve officially lost it.
LikeLike
Abrra said
River
LOL! Did you notice the LONG pants, just like real life. I tried to dress him up like the Contigo suit. No good black coat.
Abrra
LikeLike
bebereader said
Abrra#52 Okay I’ve just made a mess of his closet! hahahaha
LikeLike
Tawna21 said
FG what a tremendous article!! I absolutely agree with all you’ve said. Although I’m not ‘in a closet’ with my ODD (others know I’m a huge fan), I still feel the need to keep it in check most of the time. I guess I have just chosen to keep it low-key because I’m not up to defending myself. I just use this site to release myself. Thanks for the cooling, and refreshing tall drink of lemonade on a really hot, Utah afternoon!
Abrra–once again, you’ve created a masterpiece in the slide show!
Tawna
LikeLike
emmegirl said
Props to Abrra, loving the slide show!
LikeLike
Pattirae said
#52 Abrra I’m a kid again—playing paper dolls!! Very clever indeed. Yes River, it is fun trying to recall what he wore and where!
LikeLike
refnaf said
Thanks for the article FG ! I need to add my 2 cents. I have accepted what David has become in my life. I no longer keep my David “activities “ from anyone, lol, which feels great! He has brought joy and fun and a slew of wonderful new friends. His soothing voice helps me whenever I need it. I remember so well after “Shop around” on the first week of idol when Ryan said “you can only vote for him, you cant’ adopt him” and that was exactly what I was feeling… maternal thoughts of taking him in and caring for him (while he sings of course) For me it is not about compartmentalizing him, it is about choosing what feels right. While I think David is extremely good looking in every possible way, I personally choose to not think of him in a physical way. This may seem repressive to some…. But I can not be comfortable without sharing what I think. I am devoted to David, his music, his spirit, his strength, his egolessness, all of what makes him so special to us , but, (here it comes) IMO his sexual attractiveness is not something for me… that is for the young girls of his age….this is what I choose for me….and what I can feel good about.
(((hugs to all)
LikeLike
bebereader said
Just a few hours left until midnight:
Is anyone staying up to wait?
I’ll be in chat at about 10:30 PM EST
http://www.livestream.com/thevoiceunplugged
LikeLike
stenocruiser said
FG
What a great article! Just look what you started — this fantastic thread with fascinating true confessions from such wonderfully talented writers. Everyone has been able, somehow, to actually explain what has happened to all of us in the last two and a half years. A very special ODD support group. Yes, the eye-rolling and snickering started for me on a trip across the border in November 2008. The others wanted to head for an outlet mall and I simply asked if they would mind stopping first at Wal-Mart so I could pick up a CD. Why Wal-Mart they wanted to know, there are stores in the mall where you can get a CD. So I had to explain about the bonus track and how that track wasn’t on the Canadian Wal-Mart version of David Archuleta’s CD. That did it! “Oh Mom”, etc., etc. Anyway, they humoured me and I did get the CD. My kids all know I am a real fan but I don’t think they have any idea how much David means to me. I have given them CFTH and e-mailed links to some special David moments – first single Crush, the Crush music video, ALTNOY video, Women’s Conference speech, Contigo and more. I’ve actually not had any real responses from them to any of those. But that’s okay, my oldest daughter did go with me to Ann Arbor (well, she drove) and she very much enjoyed David’s concert. I felt so blessed to be there. I’m a widow and live on my own so I can play David’s music to my heart’s content and have as many mementos around as I want with nobody showing exasperation at my indulgence. So wonderful also to be able to find so many others who feel the same way on all the fansites and especially here on The Voice. Life is pretty darn good for this old girl, much thanks to David and his fans.
LikeLike
emmegirl said
For me, I feel the jist of the thread is partly, yes, about appreciating his beauty, which includes the inside, the outside, the voice and his ethereal qualities – none of which can be denied; but really, more about the idea of so closely and fervently following and connecting with someone so young; how can simply hearing this 19 yr olds voice on any given day nurture my soul or at the very, very least, put a smile on my face.
It’s about releasing any doubts or self-imposed guilt brought on by yourself or others, and allowing yourself to be a proud, full-fledged, lifelong, “bite-me, think what you will,” supporter of this incredibly talented and deserving 19yr old. I want him to survive and prosper and make a difference in the music biz and in the world, and want to do whatever I can in my small part of the universe to support him.
I sometimes wonder if part of the reason he is so loved by so many in our age group is because he is a throwback. He can sing, like the singers we grew up with, and his innocence, freshness, humility and character are reminiscent of the time when we were growing up. A lost time. I feel blessed to have grown up in the 50’s and 6o’s.
Whatever it is, I thank him for it.
And GO SBL!
LikeLike
SandyBeaches said
Something Bout Love…got it…hear it…over and over on my IPOD!!
Thanks David!!
SB
LikeLike
emmegirl said
SB, me too!!!! That voice!
LikeLike
tracewillow said
Abs
You outdo yourself constantly. The slide show is so good – I thoroughly enjoyed it.
Angelica #37
I was so touched when you said: I found my inner cougar and she is beautiful and strong and wise….and utterly harmless. I want to print that out and paste it on the wall next to my computer. My heart is pounding as I type this because that statement reflects precisely my own sentiments.
I no longer want to take heed of how people see me or what they say. One of the crazy remarks I got was: Is it because you miss not having a son? – all said in total sympathy with tears brimming in their eyes……cor blimey….I’m just so glad I have you guys!
LikeLike
Gayle122890 said
#37 Angelica: I don’t know why your post has me in tears. Something about it has struck a chord in me. It may be my own sense of loneliness when it comes to my ODD and my environment. I have learned to put things into perspective and it has helped me. There can’t be anything wrong with loving the abundance of goodness that is David. There is something remarkable about this kid. I know it in my heart. Faith, hope and love-It’s what he lives in. He is the instrument that God has used to point those things out to me once again. Not to mention the joy he brings me. Others around me don’t see that deeply into this. They just see my “thing for David Archuleta” and they joke and make the cougar remarks. But it doesn’t matter to me. I know I’m getting the better part of the deal. Knowing David and having found encouragement and the energy to live my life in that way of truth once again.
LikeLike
FG said
Oh my stars you guys! I am overwhelmed by all of your posts! Thank you all for your honesty, stories, and courage in supporting David. Bliss – I wanna read that article! Angelica – I am still processing your epic post.
LikeLike
Susie said
A little off the main subject, but I just emailed Robin Meade of CNN/HLN about David’s new song just out.
Usually on Tuesday she plays some clips of new songs out – so we’ll see – if anyone hears it – please comment.
LikeLike
emmegirl said
Susie, good work, keep us posted.
LikeLike
emifriend said
We might be hearing about this from our concerned friends and family…There was a small typo last night in Twitterland from the VOICE…
# TheVoiceDA TheVoiceDA
RT @Shell_eeeyyy @DavidArchie #Somethinboutlove that breaks your heat….whoa oh oh oh…. 18 minutes ago via web
LikeLike
SandyBeaches said
FG…When all is said and done…there is ‘one’ person who understands, for certain that is…perhaps the most important person that we would want to understand the situation and that is…David. Over time it will all work out…
SB
LikeLike
djafans said
Good Morning!
SB…your are so right. And upon meeting him several times like so many of you, you feel the respect and appreciation he feels for us his mature fans. Because even though yes we think he’s hot he is the epitome of love and goodness that just shines when you’re in his aura and we treat him with nothing but respect, admiration and love. In my book there is nothing wrong with that.
LikeLike
djafans said
Emifriend…oh no…I retweeted that typo…lol
Something Bout Love is #32 on itunes pop and #75 overall!!!!
from jivemusic
@DavidArchie fans – Hang tight. Pre-Order is almost here! Stay tuned to http://www.davidarchuleta.com/ for info.
LikeLike
djafans said
Something Bout Love is #29 on itunes pop and #69 overall!!!!
LikeLike
Pattirae said
I can feel it in my bones, “Something ‘Bout Love” is going to be HUGE!!! I can’t think of anything else today!!! It feels like Christmas—-and will feel even more like Christmas on Sept. 14th!!!
So, so happy right now as that special number keeps climbing higher and higher every hour. Thanks Djafans for keeping us posted.
LikeLike
emmegirl said
Just in from Jive:
JiveMusic
@muldur Call your local radio stations and request “Something ‘Bout Love” today! #somethingboutlove
1 minute ago via web in reply to muldur
We can request!
LikeLike
Pattirae said
#74 Sandybeaches
“When all is said and done….there is “one” person who understands, for certain that is….perhaps the most important person that we would want to understand the situation and that is….David.” I love this!! Thank you SB for narrowing it down for us.
LikeLike
djafan said
And David tweets….
LikeLike
ram said
Mornin’ all.
Wow! Those numbers are great. This is so exciting and we can request it on the radio!!! I can’t wait to blast in on my car stereo.
So when will we be able to pre-order the album? Went to the store and I didn’t see it yet.
LikeLike
djafan said
Give David a call, he left a message for us. 801-386-8196
LikeLike
Pattirae said
#81
David’s quote “Our ultimate freedom is the right and power to decide how anybody or anything outside ourselves will affect us.” is the perfect antidote for FG’s wonderful article “The Dilemma of Acceptance.” How we decide to respond to the critics is the key to our happiness.
LikeLike
djafan said
#SomethingBoutLove still trending in US
#40 on itunes overall
#20 on itunes pop
This is insane!!!!!
buy buy no more than 5 to 8 a day, unless you have two itune accounts…lol
LikeLike
djafan said
David just made the cool new music top 40 All Access
LikeLike
Angelica said
Update 10: 7/20, 3:18 p.m. ET
Overall iTunes: 35
Pop iTunes: 16
Yeeaah baby!!!
LikeLike
betsy said
I am so proud of David’s fans I could burst!!!!
I was gone all day and come home to see his single trending and now this!!!(Angelica, #87)
:):):) :):):) <————- Me.
LikeLike
djafan said
THE ALBUM COVERRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
http://www.sonymusicdigital.com/david-archuleta/details/5591008
LikeLike
djafan said
It does say not final art…but I love it none the less! 🙂
LikeLike
djafan said
Fan Pack available now!!!!!
LikeLike
betsy said
This fan pack sounds amaaaaaaazzziinnngggggg! The dvd, chance to win a flip camera with his own video!!!!!
All the other stuff!!!!
Can’t even remember, too excited
LikeLike
Angelica said
OMGAAAWWWWWSSHHHH!!!! That is a stunner of a cover!! He looks like a staarrrr!!!!
LikeLike
betsy said
Love the boots, jeans, shirt, smile, chair tipping, etc. 🙂
LikeLike
djafan said
loving it all betsy!!!! 🙂
LikeLike
betsy said
Thank you David. You bring out the happy. 🙂
LikeLike
Abrra said
Screen cap from the new promo video on OS. djafan please make a bunch?
Abrra
LikeLike
bebereader said
Away all day and came back to this!!!
Loving the edgy pic…the boots on the wall, the danger in the chair tip, the smile :D, the cool hair, the carefree attitude!
Let’s not forget to give kudos to the photographer for capturing a side of David that we rarely see!
*runs off to order the cd*
LikeLike
Pabuckie said
My wish has come true! David and boots! lol
And that jacket! He looks so DANG HAPPY too!
LikeLike
djafan said
LikeLike
bebereader said
credit clevverTV
LikeLike
djafan said
If you haven’t bought at least 5 SBL’s…please do so on itunes!
LikeLike
River said
Just love that cover shot. What a difference from Album 1 !!! This is hip, relaxed, stylish, hot and sooo joyful. This photog really got him, for sure. No wonder he loved that shoot. Can’t wait for more.
LikeLike
emmegirl said
I agree River – That photo is perfection, and it bodes well for the cover! Same here, we need more leaks of photo shoot pics! He really does look happy doesn’t he.
According to Jive’s tweet, it is time to start requesting SBL! We need people to hear it and buy it!
Angelica, diggin the star! and that he is!!!!!
LikeLike
bebereader said
No watermarks!!
Credit: John from ArchieRx
LikeLike
angelofdja said
Why the heck am I crying seeing this cover? AHHHHHH…. I LOVE him so…
LikeLike
FG said
GOOOOOD Grief!! boots, hair, that face, boots, hair. That’s one strong chair my friends! How much more are we expected to take?
LikeLike
emmegirl said
Thaanks bebe! What a great pic! Is he love or what!
LikeLike
betsy said
David at a James Taylor/Carole King concert. This does me in.
♪ Rock a bye sweet baby james ♪
Please do not sing that David. I want to live a long life.
LikeLike
Abrra said
Betsy we tweeted him to cover “Handyman” go listen *dies*
Abrra
LikeLike
emmegirl said
Anyone have any clue as to where this concert is. Guessing LA, but…
David + James Taylor = my oh my
LikeLike
blisskasden said
Just got home to all this news. David was at a Carole King/James Taylor concert? If ever there was a musical marriage made in heaven , it is David and Carole King. Carole is, without question, the premier American songwriter of the past 50 years. She has so many classics, it’s
embarrassing. Leave it David to know of and go to a concert of these two legends whose stardon predates his birth by over 20 years. Here are just a couple of Carole’s songs I would love David to get his lips and voice on:
“Now and Forever”
“You’ve Got a Friend”
“Some Kind of Wonderful”
“Will You Love Me Tomorrow” (the slow version)
and from James Taylor, one of my favorite songs of all time:
“Shower the People”
Until David, the best concerts I ever went to were Carole King’s. To bring David and Carole together on stage would be historic.
LikeLike
collegemom said
He is going to love the concert. My husband and I just went to it in Oakland last night. After the concert I looked up where they were going next and it was Irvine so that is where he is. Carole King was amazing and James Taylor is always great. I didn’t realize that she wrote some of the old Everly Brothers songs and many of the songs that Taylor sings. It was sold out (Oracle Arena) and the crowd was crazy for them. Lucky David!
LikeLike
emifriend said
James Taylor played in Nashville once with the Nashville Symphony and earned 11 standing ovations. OH my it was such a wonderful night! Carly Simon made an appearance also. I’ve never seen Carole King live, but my big brother and sister used to sing together ( all that good acoustic music) and they’d practice all night in the room next to mine. Carole King’s songs were my lullabies- all her music is very close to my heart. I’ve always hoped we would get to hear David singing them!
LikeLike
bebereader said
Every concert David goes to enriches him and adds to his musical genius. Carole King and James Taylor, two musical legends are bound to have an impact on his songwriting and performances skills. Hold on tight…David Archuleta is on his way!
Bliss#112 “Now and Forever” FTW!!!
LikeLike
Becca said
djafan, how did you get those screen caps without all of the album stuff on it?
LikeLike
blisskasden said
Carole King ushered in a new era with her epic “Tapestry” album in 1971. In many ways, I see David potentially doing the same with this CD. Although he obviously has not yet developed her prolific songwriting talent (give him time), he is already a vastly superior singer to any singer/songwriter of that era.
The term “unlimited potential”, which has become somewhat of a cliche, is an understatement when describing The Archuleta.
LikeLike
Marciami said
FG –
I love how you write and what to choose to write about in Davidworld. The Dilemma of Acceptance is a subject that I know you have put a lot of blood, sweat, and tears into, and a topic close to your heart (and many others). You are so insightful and funny and “spot” on with your stages of grief-been up and down that ladder of grief many times and still going. You are so funny-not talking in your sleep hahahaha-get a tape recorder to be safe! The Vest-keeping it real. Repeat after me-I am not crazy, I am not crazy, I am not crazy-feel better now?? Yea, doesn’t work. Feeling out of control and crying is a real pain-especially if someone hears. What do you say then? The onions made me do it! Love the bargaining-skip right to the truth, that he fills the soul, since the rest isn’t gonna stand up very long! And yes, thank God that there are people here we don’t “know” in real life who understand us and tell us we are OK and it Does make sense, and is True and Real. It is so true, people really don’t get it, and your quote last week said it all. By the way, I really like your freak-just have to keep that lid handy in times of need! Thank you for talking about ageism-it exists and I feel it too, and I’m a lot older than you. I didn’t go to any AI concerts because I felt old and dumb and old and guilty. I was in so much pain that I just decided I didn’t care what people thought, but it was hard. David is a sum of his parts and try as we might want to, he cannot be chopped up in our hearts. Thank you for clarifying this real dilemma I feel and for sharing your personal thoughts and feelings. I understand myself better. Acceptance.
Denial – me ?? haha Still can’t talk about the s words-shaving and stubble without feeling bad, let alone other body stuff, etc. My denial is cracking though. I know I have a little OCD, but do I also have to deal with ODD for the rest of my life?? Guess so!
Anger – why is this happening to me. I thought I was sort of, kind of sane before this kid came along and now I am thinking I am nuts, along with some other people. A friend said to me – “I don’t understand the obsession”. Well, sometimes I don’t either and surely can’t explain it in words. But you know, I wouldn’t trade it for anything.
Bargaining – I think that is a lost cause with me.
Depression – You helped haul me out of my depression after the CFTH tour was over-mucho pitiful sight people. Thank God you were there FG. Thanks from my heart, truly. I never knew what hit me and knocked me over-the ache in my heart and soul. You helped me see it wasn’t over for good-he would come back.
Acceptance – I will continue to work on it because I will never let go of David, no matter how old I am at his concerts. He bring me joy and love and hope and smiles. (but I do need to color my hair before I see him again)
sorry so long-thanks
LikeLike
Abrra said
Becca
I will help djafan out here 😉
On David’s official site (main page) is a short promotional video he made for the new CD. djafan and I both did some screen caps from that video.
Abrra
LikeLike
Pabuckie said
I’m so happy to see that David went to a James Taylor/Carol King concert last night. I bet he really enjoyed listening to such classic hits! David’s music is timeless. Too bad they didn’t call him up to the stage! Just glad he was able to be there and listen to amazing music that he already appreciates and inspires him!
LikeLike
FG said
Aww Marcia! Thanks for sharing. I’m glad if I helped you. You are sweet and so much fun to talk to!
LikeLike
SandyBeaches said
Pabuckie…Whenever David is in the presence of singers such as James Taylor/Carol King it is a wonderful happening as they are good influences on one’s taste for music. Yes it would have been good to see David called up to the stage. It is rather funny how strong our desire is for David to be noticed and well respected…but true.
SB
LikeLike
betsy said
One of the best concerts I ever went to was James Taylor at the DTE theater in Clarkston Michigan. All seven of us sisters went. We held hands, sang, laughed – it was the best.
Three years later, I saw David on the same stage.
This life is wonderful.
LikeLike
Angelica said
Marciami,
(((what you wrote))) made my eyes mist up more than once.
Well done!
LikeLike
FG said
#105 sweeeeeeeet mercy!
LikeLike
FG said
It is just a picture, it is just a picture….. OMHHHHHYYYYSTARSSSSSS he is sooooooo handsome!!!!
LikeLike
bebereader said
David from yesterday:
theofficialarchuleta
Don’t let up! Keep buying, gifting and promoting “Something ‘Bout Love”.
LikeLike
goodkarmaseeker said
Another fantastic article FG, you sure said it all for me. My challenge is to somewhat keep in check my “physical” attraction to David. I feel I have to do that somewhat, since my husband (who is near retirement age, along with me as well) and my daughter who is 14 are so close by. I have to contain those truly heart thumping, drooly reactions when I see pictures like on #105.
It’s so cool to have this fan base and to share together all sides of our love for David.
LikeLike
Becca said
Abrra
I knew that already, haha. But on the left corner of the video it shows the stuff for the fan edition adn says ‘Pre-order now @ daviarchuleta.com!’ and stuff. but how did you get the screen cap without all of that on there?
LikeLike
Abrra said
I put the video on full screen and pushed print screen key Then I pasted it to paint program. Next I cropped the image, excluding the logo on the lower left of the screen. I hope this answers your question
Abrra
LikeLike
djafan said
Becca,
What abrra said, except I cropped it using picassa. 🙂
Hope this helps!
LikeLike
Pabuckie said
LikeLike
djafan said
LikeLike
djafan said
A review!!!
http://www.hollywoodreporter.com/hr/music-reviews/something-bout-love-1004104710.story
LikeLike
djafan said
Take a looky at Jive’s home page…
http://www.jiverecords.com/
LikeLike
Angelica said
Djafan,
Thank you so much for the lovely collage de Archuleta! My favorite is the center pic with the sweet eyes and crooked smile. Can you make it big too?
So the sophomore album is the test, huh? I think he’s gonna ace it. 😉
That Jive site is looking really good since they redecorated!
FG, that video…Bahahahaaaaaa!!! It’s a miracle!!
LikeLike
dakgal said
FG HAHa– finally watched the video # 126
I think I’m the lady in the pink dress at the end. Bah
LikeLike
bebereader said
Hanging out in The Voice Unplugged for a bit…
http://www.livestream.com/thevoiceunplugged
LikeLike
Diana said
Ahh I hope Im not too late to put my 2 cents on here! I have to agree FG except I am really young. 16 to be exact. I don’t suffer as much as you guys though but it’s hard still too. My parents think I’m crazy and my friends and peers don’t exactly understand my ODD. Whenever I talk about David to girls they would be like “Oh I love him too!” then I’d be like oh really what song do you like? And they’d be like oh I don’t listen to his music I just think he’s hot or they’d say sexy. Then there are the people who think that the only reason why girls my age are fans of a male celeb is because we think he’s hot. It kinda bugs me because David is not just a pretty face he has an amazing voice and personaliy to match. I am just happy that I have other people who get me although I know it’s tougher for you guys. I haven’t commented on here either but am a big fan 🙂 love this article! Good to see a site that acknowledges his sexiness and how hadnsome he is. I’m tired of seeing sites keep their denial of how good looking he is just because he is young. There is a difference between knowing the obvious of how good looking he is and being a creeper Sorry this is long lol
LikeLike
Abrra said
Diana
Please post often? We need more of the young fans Voices 🙂
Abrra
LikeLike
djafan said
Angelica….I can’t take credit for that collage…pabuckie posted it. But you do have mail!
Diana….welcome to The Voice. I love your comment and at sixteen it takes courage to do so. I’m very impressed with all you had to say. I hope you stick around and give us your perspective along with our staff writer who is also 16, emilyluvsarchie.
Thank you.
LikeLike
Diana said
Aww thanks guys! I’m sorry if it sounded rude or anything it just feels good to finally say what I’ve been feeling. I literally had the song ‘Say’ by John Mayer on while writing haha. But seriously thanks 🙂 and Id love to talk to EmilyLuvsArchie since we’re the same age :D.
LikeLike
dakgal said
Welcome Diana,
It’s so nice to have a sixteen year old ” get” us! Please post again!
LikeLike
Pabuckie said
Diana…loved what you had to say. David is gorgeous and there’s nothing “creepy” about saying it! We love him for his magnificent voice, his beautiful soul and his good looks! So thanks for what you said!
LikeLike
Pabuckie said
So Funnygirl – now that this article is out in the open (haha!) I guess I’ve got it BAD! LOL I made this silly video tonight!
LikeLike
Pattirae said
Pabuckie, oh how I loved this video!! I grinned through the whole thing. The pictures were perfect and made me so happy. I loved the song—had never heard it before. Thank you again for making my whole evening before turning in for the night:) Have happy dreams everyone—I know I will!!
LikeLike
Angelica said
Djafan,
Thanks! I need it for a little project I’m doing. Sorry Pabuckie, saw the big pic and thought the lovely collage was by the same person.
Diana,
“There is a difference between knowing the obvious of how good looking he is and being a creeper”
Hallelujah!! For one so young you managed to sum it all up in one sentence. So glad you delurked! Yes, it is harder for us but you have to do deal with some stuff too and I’m happy you shared that with us. Brings it home that no matter what the age, we share a common bond in our love for this remarkable singer and human being.
LikeLike
Fiona said
#145 Pabuckie, cute, cute video!! Loved it!
LikeLike
bebereader said
Diana#139 Welcome to The Voice! We welcome commenters of every age. Age is just a number, y’know? 😉 It’s refreshing to get a teenage fan’s opinion on the topics we discuss here. So please jump in whenever you feel comfortable which we hope is often.:D
Pabuckie#145 Loved your video! Catchy tune and nice pics!
David’s tweet:
LikeLike
FG said
Diana – hello and thanks for everything you said! I hope you comment again soon!
Pabuckie – LOL nice video!
LikeLike
betsy said
I love that David went to this.
http://foapom.com/
It is something I would absolutely love to do.
LikeLike
Angelica said
Pabuckie,
Your video made me smile the whole way through too. 🙂
Betsy,
Thanks for posting that link. I had no idea what the Pageant of the Masters was. Looks like something I would love to do too. He certainly does take advantage of every opportunity to soak up knowledge and enjoy life!
LikeLike
emilyluvsarchie said
FG, Great article! Sorry I’m late responding, we are at the beach for a week long vacation, and I haven’t been on line as much. ( Still keeping up though!)
Being 16 ,I know its considered more “acceptable” for me to be David’s fan, than for someone like my mom. I know she often has to explain her devotion to David, while people just accept it from me.However, as Diana mentioned earlier, (“Hi, Diana, I’d love to talk with you too!) People don’t understand how I feel about David. They assume I love him because he is gorgeous (of course that doesn’t hurt) they don’t get that it is much more than that. I have no illusions that I am going to marry him , but that is the reaction I get from many of the adults I talk with. I try to explain that David is so much more than a pretty face, that his music touches me in a way no other music has.
I tell people about his giving, loving nature, how caring and considerate he is. Most people close to me “get” how I feel, but there are still people who give a dismissive little smile that says” aw, how cute, she has a crush”.
Oh well, as we know, more and more people are going to be exposed to the David we know with the release of Something ‘Bout Love and Other Side of Down (come on Jive, promote!) If they will only open their heart, ears and eyes, they will begin to realize he much more than a pretty face with a nice voice!
By the way, very unofficial poll results here. I have played SBL for every friend I can wrangle into a set of headphones, and every single one has really liked it, even those who like to give me a hard time about David. Its going to be huge!
Sorry I went on and on, guess I better go hit the beach. I’ll be back in a bit!
LikeLike
Pabuckie said
Emilyluvsarchie! I loved this…you crack me up! lol
“I have played SBL for every friend I can wrangle into a set of headphones, and every single one has really liked it, even those who like to give me a hard time about David. Its going to be huge!”
I’ve had a few “non-believers” say they really liked it too! 🙂
LikeLike
SandyBeaches said
Diana…Welcome, it is nice to have you aboard. I love to read what younger fans say and it sounds much like what we say so we are covering a big age gap!!
I am going to copy and paste part of something that I wrote to a friend…
“I will try to explain this…I think that David is hugely handsome in so many ways. I love the Latino in him…I love the way that he moves, the way that he expresses himself on stage, the way that he connects to everyone…including the older people. His hair is wonderful, love his jeans, yes he is extremely, shall I say everything and on and on…but it is funny, my respect for him, who he is, what he does, keeps me from having that fangirly attraction that people swoon over. Every part of him moves to his music…but I am not physically attracted to him and I am happy with that. I think that I see so much of the soulful and spiritual side of David that nullifies everything else because it is strange, I should be over the moon with his whole handsome self. I actually feel more like an earth angel person towards David because I am on daily watch…how crazy is that? Can’t think of any other explanation and I have used the word ‘crazy’,haha…”
SB
LikeLike
djafan said
Good Morning!
Pabuckie, love your video, great way to start my morning with a huge smile on my face…thank you!
Emilyluvsarchie, how is it that you are so wise at such a young age. I wish I would’ve had half your wisdom at your age…oh well.
Thank you…and I’m patiently waiting for part II….not….lol
LikeLike
djafan said
Graphic from Snarky’s
http://www.bostonpete.com/Merchant2/merchant.mvc?Screen=CTGY&Affiliate=020&Category_Code=station020
LikeLike
bluebird19 said
FG: I totally understand (The Dilemma of Acceptance) where you’re coming from and I “accept” you completely. I’m in “denial” that I have to come to DA sites everyday to check out what’s going on and that I try to do it on the sly because my family doesn’t understand my ODD (“denial” again)…and that makes me “angry” that I have to do that. It makes me “depressed” that absolutely none of my friends/family have ODD (or even a smidgen of interest). Thank goodness, like you, I find that outlet with my online DA fan friends and we can say anything (well almost) to each other and that gives me “acceptance” for my ODD. So, thank you, to all you fans for your comments, because I feel so “normal” with you. FG, your writing is AWESOME!
Emilyluvsarchie: You are such a smart person for 16 and I also love your sense of humor.
Pabuckie: Love your video above and the song does fit so well 🙂
LikeLike
dakgal said
FG—“ What about your self-acceptance? Do you have yours? How did you get there?”
I accept myself and that’s all that matters. This is how I got there. There is a saying “ Each day is a gift, open and use it.” And that’s just what I intend to do. If it means loving, supporting and appreciating David,then that’s what I intend to do.
Just because I’m “older” doesn’t mean there isn’t a 19yr.- 25 yr.-35yr-45yr- old –etc. (ouch) inside of me who isn’t living and breathing. They are all a part of who I am.
David brings out all these women, the passion of young love to the more mature and deeper kind of love. Just because I’m older, is my mind supposed to go blank?
The 19 yr. old sees the physical David, who is extremely attractive and sexy (she’s not blind) and she has “thoughts”—and I let her-because it let’s me recall the feelings I once knew.
His ability to put so much emotion and feeling into his singing brings out the more mature woman and the deeper feelings of love-and I let her enjoy-because I can relive them.
Then there’s the motherly and grandmotherly kind of love and pride that the older woman in me enjoys-and I let her-because it just feels good.
All these kinds of love and emotions are within me-important to say-WITHIN ME-and that’s where they stay. I can’t deny them, I fact I enjoy them. These thoughts are an awakening and reminder of feelings that are personal to me.
I suppose I feel this stronger, because I am a widow. My tangible love has ended, but my memories of love and the feelings it evokes haven’t.
With all this action going on within me everyday, guess what, I’m ALIVE in a wonderful way, and I’m not going to apologize for that to ANYBODY!
I’m so thankful that I have this place where I feel free to express myself and to my fellow ODDers who understand.
LikeLike
djafan said
Dak ((((hugs)))
This needs to be highlighted:
“The 19 yr. old sees the physical David, who is extremely attractive and sexy (she’s not blind) and she has “thoughts”—and I let her-because it let’s me recall the feelings I once knew.”
“His ability to put so much emotion and feeling into his singing brings out the more mature woman and the deeper feelings of love-and I let her enjoy-because I can relive them.”
“Then there’s the motherly and grandmotherly kind of love and pride that the older woman in me enjoys-and I let her-because it just feels good.”
“All these kinds of love and emotions are within me-important to say-WITHIN ME-and that’s where they stay. I can’t deny them, I fact I enjoy them. These thoughts are an awakening and reminder of feelings that are personal to me.”
“With all this action going on within me everyday, guess what, I’m ALIVE in a wonderful way, and I’m not going to apologize for that to ANYBODY!”
Thank you for just laying it out!!!!
LikeLike
FG said
SandyBeaches, Emily, Bluebird, djafan, dak – thanks for your comments! What a crazy ride huh? Despite everyone’s feelings, it still all boils down to LOVE. We love him in all the ways that humans can experience love. There are different kinds, but they are all love. Thanks to everyone that supports David. No one deserves it more. 🙂
LikeLike
bebereader said
Leave it to David to delete the “heartthrob” reference when he returned the tweet:
😀
LikeLike
FG said
LOL he was prob like “ummmmm awkward…I’m sure I don’t cause anyone’s heart to throb lol”
LikeLike
bebereader said
{{{{dak}}}} #159 I laughed and cried at your comment because you’re so spot-on! Thank you for daring to explore those feelings and to share them with us. We are all human beings on this ride and sometimes we don’t realize that our deepest feelings can help someone else.
Yes, we are an ODD Support Group for each other.
LikeLike
bebereader said
FG#163 If he only knew. 😉 Well, maybe he does now. LOL
LikeLike
Diana said
I agree with what you wrote Emily! I for sure will comment more! I’m glad I found a place where I feel I belong. I usually lurk from site to site and haven’t found a place to feel comfortable enough to comment on. So thanks :). Haha when I saw that tweet of David leavin out the heart throb part I laughed so hard. Typical David lol
LikeLike
Pabuckie said
Guys! David is going to be on TV — Monday 7/27 on Lifetime from 7:00a.m. to 8:00a.m. talking about his book and his faith!
LikeLike
Pabuckie said
Oops so excited think its Tuesday – 7/27! lol
LikeLike
Susie said
This has been one of the most enjoyable Comment Sessions.
Each time I sit at the computer, I go to this site, and check who else has been here since I last read everything up to #168.
Innocence + strength = Our baby boy!
The dimples don’t hurt anything either.
LikeLike
Pabuckie said
Where is everybody! haha
David is going to be on TV!!!!!
New pics from photoshoot!
http://tinyurl.com/2blebov
LikeLike
djafan said
Here are the pictures!
LikeLike
djafan said
Thank you pabuckie for the Lifetime info!!!!!!
LikeLike
Pabuckie said
Ok ppl are tweeting this — is David singin tonight?
.
xoPaMxo96 omfg it has one freakin T RT @sashat18: David Archuletta @ EA Madden NFL 11 event. He’s singing the anthem http://twitpic.com/27of5w
5 minutes ago via web
LikeLike
djafan said
The only info I got from regarding EA Madden NFL 11 event. He’s singing the anthem , is that it’s a football video game…confused…
http://toucharcade.com/2010/07/21/madden-nfl-11-hands-on-preview/
LikeLike
Pabuckie said
I’m confused too! but everyone on twitter is saying it! Where the heck is DA? haha in LA? There was an article I can’t find it saying some guy was interviewed last week in NY….but I dont understand where David is singing the NA?
LikeLike
Pabuckie said
Well until we get more info. that NFL thing is a mystery to me.
The twitpic of him is nice though!! 🙂
LikeLike
Marciami said
oh dja –
in the spirit of acceptance, let me just say that that is the HOTTEST and coolest peace sign photo I have ever seen David make – how do you say in Spanish – he is a real hot tamale!! I can live with one pic a day, but beyond that is cruel to us – actually, one each day may be as much as we can handle.
LikeLike
Pabuckie said
Well I got a reply and looks like he did sing the NA.
@sashat18 is this an event in LA that David is singing at tonight?
sashat18 @pabuckie no he’s just doing the anthem for this celebrity game
LikeLike
Pabuckie said
David is singing the NA right now!
sashat18 @pabuckie malibu bluffs and its right now
LikeLike
Pabuckie said
Where David is singing tonight.
http://news.ea.com/portal/site/ea/template.PAGE/menuitem.be8f8aafa1f7201d1abbba10f6908a0c/index.jsp?ndmViewId=news_view&newsId=20090717005151&newsLang=en
LikeLike
collegemom said
Here’s more info on the event that David is doing the NA for:
http://www.1iota.com/events,4964,Madden-NFL-11-Pigskin-Pro-Am.html
LikeLike
Pabuckie said
forget it…i think that’s an old article.
LikeLike
collegemom said
That’s funny, Pabuckie, we posted at the exact same time but I like your info better! Just wish it listed him singing the NA!
LikeLike
collegemom said
wait, what? now I have to go back and read again
LikeLike
Pabuckie said
The NFL thing is going to be shown on NBC on Aug. 8th she said on twitter.
LikeLike
Abrra said
Collegemom
I like your info better. I read the fine print and found this:
The NFL and EA have teamed up to create a unique and exciting program to celebrate EA’s release of NFL Madden 11. The Event will feature 2 teams of 10 participants playing a modified flag football game on a special field in Malibu, CA. Each team will consist of 4 NFL alumni and 4 celebrities, and 2 current NFL players as coaches. For each participant on the winning team, the NFL will donate Five Thousand Dollars ($5,000) to the charity of their choice.
The Event will run similar to a typical NFL game with a pregame, 4 quarters and a halftime show. There will be unique twists to the game with special scoring opportunities.
>>>>>>The event will be taped and air on NBC and NFL network in mid-August.<<<<<<<<<<<
Pa that link you posted in #180 says Thursday July 23rd all over the place. I question their sanity 🙂 That tweet reply you gave makes more sense with Collegemom's link.
Abrra
LikeLike
Pabuckie said
Abrra – see #182.
LikeLike
SandyBeaches said
About by the time that his new CD is released, I am hoping that we hear about some grand events that David will be performing at like guest interviews on certain well known shows and appearing at big awards nights, performing on stage often…that`s a dream that needs to come true…
I am just hoping to see the day very soon when David is back on stage, his stage and a few others…
SB
LikeLike
Pabuckie said
Nice!
http://twitpic.com/27pda8
LikeLike
djafan said
WARNING!!!!
credit Zully FOD
LikeLike
Angelica said
Abrra is now spamming her own name. I question her sanity. 😉
I suppose it would be too much to ask for one of these celebrities to post a video on YT?
LikeLike
Pabuckie said
I’m gonna question everyone’s sanity after looking at that pic! LOL
LikeLike
bebereader said
Why does all the good stuff happen when I’m away?
Pabuckie: Insanity never felt this good! LOL
LikeLike
Angelica said
He’s becoming very attached to those distressed jeans.
LikeLike
Pabuckie said
I don’t know Bebe – everyone is always away! lol
LikeLike
bluesky said
A View from the Side:
My “family” (peeps here at the Voice) has grown since I have been gone. I have a hard time with “crowds” but very much enjoy listening to all of the sounds. It is like lying in the grass and resting, coming to a realization of the birds, the crickets, the bees, the flow of water, the soothing murmur of the aspens. Instead of being overwhelmed, I can be comforted and feel the warmth of the sun on my back, the friendly brush of air across my face and arms. My breath slows and I rest.
Dear DA: Life gets pretty crazy sometimes. Human imperfections lift the tides of pain and fear, and sound mighty cymbals of demanding consequence. Your own voice rains down in rich bounty, hand-delivering a welcomed grace.
*
*
*
But honestly? You could do something to make the whole r&r thing easier. Here is a paper sack. Please wear it over your head.
LikeLike
Pabuckie said
I’m in love with David’s face, his t-shirt, his-jeans and his footwear! (Yeah, yeah, the VOICE is a given!)
LikeLike
emmegirl said
What a bountiful day. How does him nonchalantly sitting on a bench, water bottle in tow, make such an incredible picture… someone tell me, please!
Love the peace sign. (And I prefer the t shirt more up around the hips than pulled all the way down. Looks more like it’s the right size. Hopes he sticks with it.)
LikeLike
djafan said
LikeLike
emmegirl said
Guess he got tired of the long hair. Don’t know why, but this just seems more like him. Like.
David chillin.
LikeLike
Marciami said
Nice, very nice, super nice shoes – can I have the laces when you are done with them David?
LikeLike
Mandi said
Nice article! Although I don’t comment very often, I am here everyday. I feel all your pain, worries, and joy. Like most of you, I no longer question my sanity. I accepted the fact that I really love David for who he is as a person and I am going to be there for him no matter what. I hope he will have a long and successful career so he can sing to more people and so I can enjoy more music from him for as long as I live.
Off topic for a bit. You never know these days what songs are going to be hits and which ones are going to be received with luke warm enthusiasm. I really love his latest single. I’m not sure why it hasn’t climbed to the top 10 on itunes. I thought it’s even better than Crush. I loved Crush too but SBL seems a lot better. Wonder if Jive is doing David a favor by splitting the sales between itunes and David’s website. Hmmm… hopefully they know what they’re doing. Can’t wait for the album, though. I am sure it will be awesome. Did anyone realize how quick David finished writing these songs? He could write 6 to 7 songs in one week. It seems to me that he could release new music every 6 months if his label lets him. He really is such an amazing talent which we all know since like forever ago.
LikeLike
ram said
Mandi- I loved what you said especially this:
“I accepted the fact that I really love David for who he is as a person and I am going to be there for him no matter what. I hope he will have a long and successful career so he can sing to more people and so I can enjoy more music from him for as long as I live.”
That was a very interesting thought you brought up about Jive sharing with David’s fansite. Hmmm? Now I am wondering if you’re on to something. I am glad you commented.
Hope to see you in the chat room sometime. Buenas noches.
LikeLike
BJC said
Oh my goodness….I read your article and I had to look at the author’s name, I thought for a moment, I had a memory lapse and wrote it and couldn’t remember. I am so glad I am not alone in my love of David. He is beautiful as you said…OH SO Beautifu, even if he doesn’t think so. His voice gets to me so deeply. My family thinks I am really overly obsessed with a teenager. My co-workers call him my “boyfriend” as they snicker at me. Every time they see or hear him they tell me they think of me. So this is a bad thing??? I think not. I am proud to be his fan and I will always support him.
I do not know why he touches my heart so much. I love to see him and hear him. David you are a blessing and I am thankful you are YOU.
LikeLike
djafan said
Hello BJC!
“Every time they see or hear him they tell me they think of me. So this is a bad thing??? I think not. I am proud to be his fan and I will always support him.”
I know the feeling, but what is one to do? It seems that we constantly try to define the while just making it unexplainable.
Hope to see you more!
LikeLike
Abrra said
BJC!
We have a new article up today. See the link to it below on the right corner.
Abrra
LikeLike
ugg boots sale said
Nice site, nice and easy about the eyes and great content too.
LikeLike